The trouble with sexual behaviour of Nigerian males

Written by Biodun Ogungbo

The Punchm Nigeria. Monday, April 25, 2016

A joke

Biodun Ogungbo

A woman is at home when she hears someone knock at the door.

She goes to the door and sees a man standing there.

He asks the lady, "Do you have a vagina?"

She slams the door in disgust.

The next morning, she hears a knock at the door and it is the same man asking the woman 'Do you have a vagina'? She slams the door again.

Later that night, when her husband gets home she tells him what has happened for the last two days.

The husband tells the wife in a loving and concerned voice, "Honey, I am taking tomorrow off to be home, in case this guy shows up again."

The next morning they hear a knock at the door and both of them run for the door.

The husband says to the wife in a whispered voice, "Honey, I'm going to hide behind the door and listen. If it is the same guy, I want you to answer 'yes' to the question because I want to see where he is going with it."

She nods and opens the door. Sure enough, the man asks the same question.

"Do you have a vagina?"

"Yes", she says.

The man replies: "Good. Would you mind telling your husband to leave my wife's alone and start using yours?"

So, here we are this week.

Sexual predators

My 14-year-old niece was hit on two times within five minutes by two old men at an ice-cream parlour in Abuja. In fact, she told one of them, who asked for her phone number that she was only 14, and he said, "Stop lying about your age."

Another young girl was accosted by a middle-aged man at the shopping mall. He approached her with compliments about her beauty and then asked her out on a date. He did all this while his wife and their two children popped into a shop. Can you imagine what will happen if she goes away on holiday and he is left on his own? How depraved and morally deficient?

The fact is that many of these men are seemingly happily married. Some of them are even grandfathers. This calls for concern, especially when you hear tales of rich and powerful men usurping their positions for sex. Women are regularly sexually assaulted at their work places and at job interviews.

Consider the plight of nurses, for example. They are frequently harassed for sexual favours by men old enough to be their fathers. Just because a nurse has taken care of them in the hospital, some feel that they are entitled to see her knickers.

Some men wrongly think that nurses are there for their pleasure and so, they trouble them for sex by using different guises. Some use their position and money to influence the women. This puts the weak nurses in a vulnerable position to accede to these immoral requests. And the moment they have taken the devil's money, they may have to pay with your bodies.

Even the poor are not spared. House helps are often raped and impregnated by their employer's husband, thereby leading to serious problems for these young girls and further hardship in the family. Many of them, who are as young as 14 and 15 years, have their lives ruined by teenage pregnancy and unwanted babies.